I have been contemplating whether to right this post for a
while now. I thought that maybe, just maybe writing about this topic may help
me deal with it, you know move on, find one of the many things in my life that
I can rejoice about.
My most popular post is the top 5 things about living in
Singapore, so why not do the opposite and write about the hardest things about
living away from home and the ways I have been coping?!
This last month the whole ‘living in another country’ thing
has really set in. I have found myself struggling with so many aspects of
living in another country which to be completely honest, I thought I had been
passed by now.
I think it is the friendship aspect which has been the
hardest for me to deal with. I honestly have made the most wonderful and kindest friends here in Singapore; it is such a HUGE blessing, but being in
a country where I literally only know a handful of people and have only known
them for six or so months, makes me feel pretty lonely sometimes. It’s hard because
I just wish I had friends here like in Australia that I had known for years
upon years. A close network of friends who just knew pretty much everything
about me. This was something I really didn’t think would affect me when I moved
here.
How I cope with this is still something I am working on. I suppose the easiest way to deal with it is to know that I
will have the chance to visit people and to take each day at a time. I find
that I am ALWAYS thinking ahead and how each of my actions will dictate my
future. There is nothing wrong with this, but I just cannot let it consume me
to the point that I forget about the moment; we all need to live in the
PRESENT. I need to be embracing where my life is, and the new doors that have
opened and ARE opening living away from my home country.
Something I also struggle with (which is both a positive and
negative) is having friends of many different races besides my own. I love
speaking and interacting with people from all these countries, but the only
Australian people I know here, hilariously, are my family. I suppose it is only
normal to miss being around people from your culture and what I am trying to
say is not racist in any way! As I said, this is only starting to affect me
recently as I see people around Uni including Singaporean groups, Vietnamese
groups and often Russian groups of people who are surrounded by these
familiarities that I have not yet been able to experience.
How I deal with this, is similar to what I said above, but I
really enjoy reminding myself of the many benefits that come from having
friends from other cultures. My mind has grown, my horizons have broadened, I
have been awakened and I have met people and had discussions that I never would
have been able to if I was living my usual, predictable life in Australia. I am living an absolute adventure and I need to value that.
I started this blog in order to share my experiences, and
this is something I am going through at the moment, something I assume is only natural.
There are of course other things I
struggle with living here including how everywhere is so busy and the lack of
open spaces, but I have realised there is so much more to life than this. As
you can probably tell, my struggles in the big scheme of things really are only
minor. This is something which I really do need to focus on. I have learnt that
it is most important, that in order to move forward, you must embrace these
unpredictable moments in life, as they are where the greatest lessons can be learnt.
Top 5 Things About Living in Singapore: http://australian-living-abroad.blogspot.sg/2014/04/singapore-being-popular-stop-over-for.html
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